Maintaining Your Self-Esteem In Relationships

When a person is in love with another human, the marvelous thing about being
in love is that it is a totally positive projection. There is a person who
projects on to you all that is positive: you are marvelous, you are unique,
you are indispensable, you are a treasure. That positive projection
generates a euphoric state, of bliss, of wellbeing, whereby you are flying.
You feel loved, cared for, needed and valued. That positive projection lasts
for a time until, with the dependencies and expectations, the negative
projection begins. "You should have called me, you should have told me, you
should have come at this time, you should be more like this, you should be
less like that, you should have done this or that."

*With these expectations, demands and dependencies, that positive projection
and flying state disappear.* The other has started interfering in your
personal space and the harmony that was there previously is lost. *One needs
to learn to have a positive vision of oneself.* You are marvelous, you are
unique; don't depend on them telling you so. This does not mean you need to
feed your ego, but that you need to make the most positive emerge from
within you. *Resort to all your creative, positive, spiritual capacity, so
that you do not depend on others having to project positive things onto you
in order to feel good.* On feeling good in an independent and autonomous
way, you will be able to share with others peace, love and positivism. You
won't be in the state of a victim but will be true rulers and controllers of
your own life with solid self-esteem