Overcoming Frustration In Relationships

*There are two things in life that we can never change:

* the past and

* other people*

This often brings us one frustration after the other, especially when we do
not get the results that we want. *Frustration is also a sign of failure,
and every time that you fail in getting what you want from the other, your
self-esteem and self-confidence are reduced.*

*Frustration is a form of anger.* You allow the negative emotion to control
you, and therefore you lose control. Most times situations will not be as
you want them to be and neither will people behave as you want them to.
Therefore, you can decide now if you want to continue allowing the other to
dictate your reactions according to how they behave, which results in the
loss of your rule, control and personal power, or you can decide that no
matter how the other behaves, you rule over your responses; you decide what
you want to think and feel.

When another tries to control you and then gets frustrated because you
don't do what he or she wants or you aren't who he or she expects you to
be, they get in a bad mood with you; they look at you with anger and what
do you do? You then place an invisible barrier between you and him or her.
In such a way that they cannot 'enter' into your world and you do not leave
yours either, they lose their influence over you. In the same way, *when
you try to control people you lose your influence over them and distance is
generated.*