The Art Of Forgetting In Relationships

Sometimes, someone says something in two minutes that makes you feel really
bad - they said it in two minutes but it is still there inside the register
of your mind two months or even two years later. How could they! Who do
they think they are! Something happened in two minutes and you remember it,
you repeat it again in your mind and in your words during interactions with
others. You keep replaying the scene repeatedly in your mind. Just like an
action replay of a cricket match, you see the replays from different angles
and judge the scene in many different and negative ways and come to
different conclusions, most of which are negative in nature. With this you
strengthen that experience in your mental register. Memories and the
experiences associated with the memories replayed continuously in the
conscious mind enter your sub-conscious, so that even after a long period
of time you remember what they said to you. The other person unburdened
themselves and forgot it straightaway.

It's like your neighbour who takes out rubbish, throws it outside his
house, into your compound and forgets about it and you allow that rubbish
to remain there, without thinking of getting it cleaned. Someone throws a
few words at you and they forget, but not only do you not forget but you
repeat them in your mind to such a point that at times these action replays
do not even let you sleep. *We need to learn the art of forgetting memories
that generate shadows of hurt or pain in our present.* The past has already
gone and what you have now is the present moment.