Projection Of Mental Energies In Relationships

Sometimes in relationships, *you believe that the other person is hurting
you because they do not meet your desires, but in such cases how can you
know if it is really true?* Let's go a step ahead; *does the belief that
they are going to hurt you influence the situation until in the end it
happens?* Perhaps they won't hurt you. Your belief that the other is going
to hurt you is not so powerful that it will necessarily affect the other
person. But it affects you yourself. They may not hurt you at all finally,
but you will end up hurt, you will become emotionally ill, even psychically
ill sometimes. The symptoms will begin to show themselves and you will say:
"Did you see? I feel hurt, I keep telling you so." So your belief caused you
to get hurt and not the other.

The other person isn't you. *In relationships, a moment comes when you don't
know if it is their fault or yours, if it is their responsibility or yours,
if that person has caused the irritation inside you, or if it was you, if
that person began the argument or it was you, if they created the conflict
or if it was you, because we project (throw) our energies onto each
other.*All of this drives us to frustration. A lot of power, negative
or positive,
is needed for a person to be able to influence others with their
consciousness, it is easier to influence ourselves. This is a basic
principle of human relationships, which we don't understand. We don't
understand, and the reason is that we don't see ourselves, because we are
always looking at the other, putting the responsibility onto them, blaming
them, criticizing them.