Being An Observer And An Actor – Maintaining The Balance

In relation to the other, we have the possibility of observing and
intervening (interfering) when we wish to; that is, maintaining the balance
between being an observer and acting; playing between forming part of the
audience and being the actor. On being actors, sometimes we can lose
ourselves in the acting of the other in his or her or their dramas; we get
in so deep with what is happening to the other that we lose distance. We get
mentally and emotionally involved in the other's stories. When our awareness
gets lost in those stories, we stop being the creators of our own life and
of our own story. This habit exhausts us; we lose energy; we lose our
concentration and control over our thoughts and our emotions. We lose our
inner peace and we begin to look for it again.

We can choose to observe the dance of ideas, images and acts of others, and
not get involved in their complications. Only thus will we be at peace with
ourselves and with the world. Remember that you create your own story. If
you want to live in peace and exercise a positive influence on the people
around you, don't try to control or to change the stories of others.
In order to enjoy a painting you do not poke your nose onto it; you remain
at a certain distance so you see it with greater clarity. The same thing
occurs with the painting of life. By learning the art of being a detached
observer and then intervening, of keeping a healthy distance, we manage to
be connected with what is essential without losing ourselves in the waste
and superfluous (excessive). That way, our intervention does not arise out
of a reaction which has shades of frustration, anger and negative
judgements. We are then the creators of spaces of trust and love in
relationships.