Crossing Negative Circumstances/Situations

There are periods of life in which it seems to us that there is someone or
something who gets in the way of our path. Circumstances, instead of going
in our favor, go against us. They are barriers that make it difficult for us
to reach our objectives; they are interruptions that prevent us from feeling
satisfied; they are situations that seem to reduce our feelings of success.

When we find ourselves with these scenes that appear to block our progress
towards the aims and objectives that we have set out for ourselves, we tend
to have negative thoughts; we feel anger and rage, or we feel sad and
unenthusiastic, as if we don't have the strength to either overcome or
transform the situation. Rather it is the situation that overcomes or
overpowers us and leaves us exhausted. Some people are not prepared for this
to happen and put all their strength into fighting the situation. They do so
with feelings of anger, revenge and injustice. Often it becomes a process
that wastes their energies and leaves them exhausted, without achieving a
true solution.

It is possible to live through situations without them causing such an
emotional energy loss. That does not mean that we become cold and
insensitive to what happens around us. *It is a question of living through
situations without drowning into them. If we drown ourselves in them we
won't be able to help others or ourselves. *We will be lost, like the
shipwrecked, at the mercy of the waves, the tides and the winds. We will
have lost the control of the steering wheel of our ship – our life.
The challenge lies in knowing what the strategy is to learn to live through
negative situations without allowing them to influence our emotional and
mental state.

*In order to achieve that, in the first place, we should change our
interpretation. Instead of interpreting the situation as an obstruction,
interference or barrier to our path, we need to change our perception. We
can ask ourselves questions like: What has this situation taught me? What
does it say to me? Remain detached, observe and listen before reacting
immediately. From detachment, observation and listening we can have a more
practical and wider perception.*

*We are the creators of our realities.* Reality, in itself, does not create
for us stress, pain or unhappiness. It is our way of looking and
interpretation of reality that brings about these reactions. Therefore, we
have to review how we perceive situations and with what beliefs we interpret
and judge them. Reinterpreting the situation, the concrete reality, implies
allowing the old perception to die in order to make room for a new vision.
Without the old dying, the new cannot be built correctly.

Instead of seeing people or situations as obstacles on the path, we can see
them as opportunities to practice patience and tolerance, to know how to
listen, thank and love. They allow us to widen our capacity to co-operate
and enlarge our heart so that we might be more generous.

In order to have a wider perception and not to drown in any negative
situation i.e. not to get affected by it, you can position yourself in a
positive way. *Instead of losing respect for the self and developing a
negative consciousness,* *if you make your consciousness positive and
stabilize yourself in respect towards yourself, in maintaining your positive
and powerful self-esteem and a healthy distance (not necessarily physical
distance, but rather by not letting the situation absorb you), you will be
able to have an eagle's vision. From above, everything looks smaller. It is
easier to get over something small. You can. “I am a victorious soul” or “I
am a destroyer of obstacles” are examples of positive consciousness.*

Whatever happens, it is important to always be aware that you create your
thoughts and you allow the situations to have greater or lesser impact
inside you, according to how you see them. *Learn to create thoughts full of
courage, trust and determination. Spirituality and the practice of
meditation helps you do just that. Those thoughts, charged with positive
energy, will help you to allow each situation to pass; to really overcome it
and leave it behind; for it not to remain alive in your thoughts or in your
memory.*
*With the power of a mind that creates thoughts full of good energy,
wherever you go, you will create a pleasant atmosphere.* Your vibrations
will create spaces full of beauty, love, trust and peacefulness; spaces
where all those who enter will remove their masks and will connect again
with their true self.