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Meditation To Experience Being An Impartial Observer

Experience the following thoughts one after the other:

I sit in a relaxed position, letting all tensions dissolve...
I relax my shoulders and neck and breathe deeply several times...
Now I focus all my attention inside and observe what is happening in mind...
I observe, and look carefully...
I see myself in different situations; I can identify the things that affect
me most, the dependencies on things and people, the various circumstances
in which I see myself involved...
I observe how these external factors influence me and change my state of
mind. I lack trust in some people, but with others I can express myself
freely. There are many influences in my life...
There are the influences of these external factors...
I separate myself from them and observe my inner qualities; I begin to feel
that peace, strength and love are part of my original self...
They are so strong that they cannot be influenced by the changing external
factors...
I create positive thoughts about myself...
I am a being independent of external influences, and in my inner self there
are many qualities. I feel them...
I enjoy being myself in my original peaceful state...

Vision, Goals, Strategies And Action Plans

A *vision* is what you can see but not yet reach. The most powerful
dimension of vision is not the long term dimension but actually the way you
choose to see yourself in your work, circumstances, relationships, etc.
Important changes start occurring by simply choosing to see things and
people differently. That will have a huge influence on the decisions you
make and the results. This is the power of vision.

*Goals* are aimed at achieving the vision. They should be achievable in a
short span of time and represent what you can see and reach. Goals should
be specific, measurable, actionable, relevant and time bound (SMART).

Clarification of goals then sets the agenda for the *strategies* (how) that
are necessary to achieve those goals, to drive those goals forward. The
strategies then need to be broken down into very specific *action plans*.

Choosing Peace Over Anger

 Making the choice of peace is a simple choice, which lies in the hands of
each one of us, at every moment right through the day, every day. A lot of
people would choose a world, the world out there, made of peace but spend
most of their time remaining peaceless in their own inner world, and then
in their next door world, i.e. in their personal interactions. *A lot of us
would prefer a life of peace and we try to shape up such a life, only to be
influenced by the old belief about how it's absolutely fine to get angry
once in a while, without which it's difficult to get things done.* We also
get influenced by those people around us who continue to get angry for the
shallowest of reasons. These people could be either at home, at the
workplace, in the friend circle, the world at large or people who do not
matter too much to us but whom we encounter every day - at the vegetable
market, on the highway, or even in the movies for that matter!Unaware of
the root causes of their anger, all these people around us will find a
thousand ways to justify it, and will keep continuing with the habit in
their lives. Their emotional un-clarity is so deep and addiction to the
emotion of anger is so powerful that they will probably laugh at the idea
that anger is a negative emotion and is form of weakness or suffering. They
will, on the other hand, say that peace is timidity and a form of weakness
or suffering. So, if you do *choose peace over anger* in your life then you
are also choosing to be in a state of power and becoming free from
suffering as a result. However, *after having made that choice, to
experience it in every moment of your life, it is necessary to rediscover
where your peace is located inside you, it's true nature or essence, how to
access it through meditation and finally how to use it or apply it in your
daily life.*

Signs Of Depression And Coming Out Of It

You feel depressed when you lack happiness and optimism about the
possibilities that you have and a constantly negative consciousness and
vision is produced. You lose hope. In depression you lack an interest in
things. You are sensitive to criticisms, even if they are very little. You
feel sadness, impatience, a lack of perspectives. You try to reach
satisfaction through material means, like, for example, eating too much,
eating sweet things, etc.

You get depressed because you remember past errors; because you need the
experience of love in life; because you have developed the habit of seeing
only the negative in each situation, without sensing that a positive side
exists. The imagination behaves in a negative way; it is weakening,
depressing and even destructive. Nothing seems attractive to you and you
feel unmotivated.

To get out of this state it is important to accept yourself; keep a mental
state of a detached observer; don't allow the mind to cling to depressing
thoughts and tune it into the positive aspects of life. Sometimes
negativity and weakness have overwhelmed you to such a point that in order
to get out of that state you need a "bombardment" of positivism: go on a
spiritual retreat or holiday to a suitable destination; surround yourself
by good company; attend a course of personal development; get out of that
state in which you are closed into yourself. Take the step. Nobody can do
it for you.

Creating A Meditation Space Of Your Own

The first step in your journey towards experiencing your true state of
inner peace is finding a place or space in your home where you will
practice your meditation regularly, even if it's just an armchair. Always
use this chair, this space when you can. In this space, place two or three
objects, which represent peace to you. Soft music, soft red light and
lighting an incense stick ('agarbatti') can make the atmosphere soothing
and relaxing. The walls could be decorated with white curtains to create a
peaceful and purifying effect. After using this space for your practice of
meditation for a few days, you will experience that the atmosphere of this
space has elevated itself to a higher positive level and this will help
your practice further.